For you ladies that were fortunate enough to grow up in a two parent household, your mother set the tone that forged you into the woman you are today. You watched how she treated your father and 9 out of 10 times you follow suit with your husband. And those of you that grew up in a single parent home your mother was “that chick” she taught you how to be the strong, confident and independent woman that you are today! Based on either domestication this is where you received your foundation of who you are and where you learned how to treat a man.
After talking to a plethora of women, I must admit, y’all (I’m from Texas lol) truly hold it down when it comes to your husbands and everything he needs you to do! I don’t need to give examples because y’all know! “Salute to y’all for doin the thang!” Those things you do makes it harder for the clean up woman to come sweepin in trying to get your dude! But, some men with “ideal situations” are unhappy. You ask, why? Well, I’ll tell you.
While what you may be doing is “ideal” based on your domestication, your exposure, your women’s magazines, social media, television and ya home girls and what they do for their husbands, but “Who Told You That?” What does your husband want?
ASK HIM
I’ll tell a funny story. A newlywed couple, riding the high of marital bliss, had a wife that loved cooking pancakes everyday for her husband because she thought that’s what he wanted. One day after delivering him breakfast in bed, she came back into the bedroom to find him in the bathroom putting the pancakes down the toilet! In her saddened, yet infuriated state, she asked him why? He told her she’d made pancakes for him so much that the very sight and thought of them had begun to make him nauseous! He said he’d rather have grits, oatmeal, or even cream of wheat. Anything else besides pancakes! She never knew because she didn’t ask. And, I know you are thinking, “Well, why didn’t the jerk (or some other choice word) just simply tell her that?!” Now not to makes excuses here, but being a man, sometimes it’s hard for us to tell you the truth because we don’t want to hurt your feelings. And sometimes “You can’t handle the truth” in my Jack Nicholson voice. So obligatory disclaimer here, if you don’t want to know the truth...don’t ask!
Here’s the point ladies. Although, most men are the same, there are some differences amongst us as well. Take the time to “ask” your husband what he needs from you. Ask him how you can be the best wife he needs you to be. Then after the initial shock on his face wears off, just listen. You may be surprised! You may think you already know because you know your man, but ego and pride can keep you in the dark. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying about assumption! Cater to him specifically where he needs you to and watch what happens. Reciprocity is a Beast!!!!
Peace